Vulnerability is an Unusual Beast

What does vulnerability have to do with Love? Perhaps not a lot. Unless you consider this: when you can’t be vulnerable, you seriously inhibit your ability to sense and Love (both your self and others).

About Emotional Blockages

When emotionally blocked, we are caught in traps often of our own making. We are beyond authentic Love or empathy. We are beyond understanding for we can’t honestly “feel”.

The society I grew up in taught me to suppress my emotions and feelings. This has always grated my spirit, my heart and brought no end of misery (confusion, depression and low self-esteem).

Emotions and their “symptoms” – spiritual, psychological and physical – show us how well we are coping with what goes on within us. Symptoms are signals that there’s something much deeper inside that’s the issue e.g. as deep shocks or traumas. When blocked, buried or suppressed, these deeper issues manifest in patterns of ill-health.

By choosing to be curious, we can find out why some of these symptoms manifest. By paying attention to our symptoms with acceptance, Love, acknowledgement and respect, we find new well-being options for ourselves.

Being Kind to One’s Self

Charity begins at home. Our home. Our selves.

When we are authentic, we are real, sincere and secure in our own care, in our emotions, in our feelings. And, from this, we are Loving and kind to our selves.

Being secure, we can choose to be vulnerable. In being vulnerable, we truly register what others bring into our lives. We feel safe in what happens. Our vulnerability brings our sense, our Love and our authenticity to bear.

We are thus remarkable and bring difference into the world. By choosing vulnerability, we are the “magic” people need to experience in their lives. By choosing vulnerability, we are the difference and so support others and their needs.

Start Today: Start NOW

Being vulnerable takes only a choice to explore a broader and deeper life. If you didn’t feel there was more, you wouldn’t be looking for it, would you?

Now is always a good time to make different choices. Want to be more authentic and vulnerable and to truly make a difference? Then start with being the change.

Step one: Love your self and touch your life with Love

Step two: Love others.

It can really be that simple. Our worlds and lives are what we think they are. Choose different thinking and your life experience changes.

When you choose being vulnerable and taking that leap of faith to shift the blockages, your life will change!


I find I now appreciate. Often it’s the small things that get me started. Then I realise and value the larger ones, too.

I’ve often (intellectually) known, in life, if I wanted a better ride and to value what I experience, I need to be grateful. Somehow, I’ve always missed that bit.

As I’ve chosen to engage my passion of Communicating Love, my heart has opened. With my open heart, I appreciate:

  •       The warmth of Spring sunshine
  •       The cool of Spring air
  •       The Loving care my friends bring to me
  •       The Love my partner supports me with; her tireless and constant attention
  •       My Father, my Dad, goes further than any to help and aid me; he’s even done so through years of ingratitude on my side of the equation
  •       Trees in blossom
  •      Water flowing
  •      Plants that keep me company
  •      The beauty of Nature to heal with plants and when we allow Her to help
  •      Big-hearted, Loving people
  •      Wonder, the essence of connectedness
  •      Beauty of the spirit
  •      Stillness, silence and ease
  •      Wonder – when I am in awe of how amazing any thing can be, I am honest to who I am and unlimited in who I can be
  •      Opportunity; I can be what I wish
  •      Potential; unlimited potential
  •      Excitement; as I realise
  •      The love of cats and dogs
  •      How funny, Loving and kind and appreciative my grand-daughter can be
  •      Appreciation brings me everything – resilience, gratitude and resources to be authentic…

And, appreciation is just another word for Love.

Appreciation is Love in action: Love of my self and Love for how there’s beauty, how there’s kindness, how there’s human- and spiritual connection; how there’s Life and light everywhere. How, it’s always there when I choose to allow it to be in my Life.

And, what I love most about appreciation is the opportunity to practise it!!

How to Understand the Importance of Acknowledgement

Have you ever noticed how you feel when:

  • someone actually listens to what you are saying?
  • someone shows so much interest in you that they stop what they are doing and actively pays attention to you?

Watch how others’ respond when you:

  • hold a door open;
  • give them flowers;
  • show courtesy;
  • stop and listen to their message;
  • smile at them and wish them good day?

The big things in life can often be the little things; simple “aware behaviour” that acknowledges another is one simple to “do.”

Please share your experiences and thoughts…

The Beauty of Love in Action (regardless)

Love, the driving force and very light of Life and the Universe, is the essence that forms the foundation of many an act of kindness and search for meaning in the world.

Acts of kindness are more than buying coffees or a drink for others; they are so very, very much, much more (is that enough emphasis?). They are the times when others or oneself chooses to be generous, kind or helpful to another when they have to be neither.

In my life, seeking to understand or to find comfort (despite, and often due to, my own torments) without me seeing them for what they were, I was “kinded” to, in a variety of ways:

  • Hardy, my aunt’s dog, was always happy to take me for a walk as a teenager sad and full of anxt; a grand and warm companion;
  • My Grandma treated me for eczema with Calendula flowers in my food and on my body, and with Love – she was often there just when I needed saving!
  • My other Grandma made the most remarkable soups and Elderflower champagne (yum!) and had me to stay during the holidays;
  • At different times, children and cats have adopted me, and my lap, for friendship;
  • One time a very Loving and kind Catholic priest listened to my problems and sent me books about my (then) passion;
  • My parents, at times too numerous to count, have helped me with Love through practical support, money, care and rescue;
  • My step-uncle took me under his wing and listened when no-one else ever seemed to do – his kindness showed I was both valued and important – it felt that unique, it brings tears to my eyes even now most of forty years later;
  • Countless mentors have been there with Love beyond the call – too many to mention: I’ve been blessed with personal accommodation and acceptance and acknowledgement just when I needed it, at times beyond count;
  • What touches me almost most is the Love and trust my grand-daughter has shown me from when we first met – she’s currently seven going on much older and I’m lucky to get great birthday cards, personally designed by her – her enthusiasm for life is priceless;
  • My plants – orchids, Jade (money plants), aloe veras, Peace Lily and Baby Orange Tree – will bloom, grow, forgive, blossom and flourish despite me; I’m honoured they remind me of Love in action as they reveal their beauty;
  • And, last though not least by any means, when I allow to, God for His acceptance, Love and regard for me as His child; I am lucky and occasionally grateful, too…

What is sad is I can forget all of the Love I’ve met because I’ve oft chosen a determined regret, shame, sadness and self-neglect. I’ve buried much of Life’s amazing in neglect, burying it into shadows, unvalued and unappreciated.

Now I make a new decisions and choices:

  • I choose to shine the light of Love to find the Love hidden by my self!
  • I choose to know the Love others’ invested in me;
  • I choose to value their input and
  • I choose to value both my Life and to share that value into the Universe, too…

What have you found Life-changing and how do you express it into the world?